And the Winner Is…

December 13th, 2011

Anna Marie Mendolo

I’ve never been able to commit naming a baby before he or she was born.  Sometimes I wish I could have picked out a name while our children were still in utero, but as much as I loved our babies even before they were born I couldn’t envision them and thus I couldn’t give them a name.  Before Anna was born we had a short list of five or so of our favorite names to pick from.  Anna wasn’t on it.  I can’t even recall having discussed the name Anna during my pregnancy.  And yet, a few hours after she was born, Jeff held our new perfect baby girl in his arms and asked, “What about Annie?”  The name immediately made me smile and after calling our new baby girl all the names on our list and then some for a day or so at a time we kept coming back to Annie.  As much as I love Annie, I wanted a more elegant name for our daughter and after considering all the names which could possibly use Annie as a nickname we kept coming back to Anna; simple, classic and a reminder of my sister, Sara Ann.  Funnily enough, now a week into naming her I call her Anna far more often than Annie; so much do I love her name.

And besides her winner of a name, I have three winners of the guess the baby’s birthday, birth time, and birth weight contest:

Luke wins the birthday with his guess of November 21st – only one day off!

Grandma Linda wins the birth time with her guess of 5:30 am – 14 minutes early!

Jane (Djuana) wins the birth weight with her guess of 7 pounds, 4 ounces – just 4 ounces too light!

Now the winners must choose between grape jelly, tomato jam, jalapeno-fig jam, or mulberry jam for their prizes.  Just email me your address and your jam choice and Anna and I will send or deliver it to you.

Holy Shit* Trees!

December 4th, 2011

As I was recovering from childbirth, nursing a baby a dozen times a day, potty training a two and half year old, and trying to figure out where to send a five year old to school I thought:  my life is simply not complicated enough, what I need is an unprecedented natural disaster to add a little excitement to my day.  Well, Mother Nature obliged and this happened:

That would be most of our 72 year old redwood tree lying directly over our bedroom; you know, the room we sleep in with our newborn nestled between us.  Wednesday night saw what I have seen the local newspapers call simply, “Wind 2011″.  A few days of strong winter winds (Santa Anas) are typical here in Southern California.  In fact, 10 years ago, one such set of winds capsized the boat that Jeff was in thirteen miles offshore, resulting in him and his research colleagues narrowly escaping death in the frigid waters before being rescued by the coast guard.  The winds this past Wednesday night started innocently enough.  As the winds picked up throughout the evening Jeff made multiple trips outside; first to put away a few of the boys’ toys, then to turn over our patio furniture and secure it against the house, then to turn over the garbage cans so that they wouldn’t take off.  By the time Jeff came inside the final time, I didn’t think it was safe for him to be outside.  The winds were coming in fiercely from the north, the side of the house with our bedroom and living room with a large bay window of untempered glass.  We nervously hung out on the south side of the house making occasional forays to look out the windows and see trees convulsing violently in the wind.  And then there was a boom and the house shook.  Jeff jumped up and through the haze of blowing branches saw a huge trunk of our redwood tree lying on our house.  This was a new problem for us and we weren’t initially sure what to do.  We then heard the wind rolling the tree trunk around the roof of our house; a very disturbing sound.  I started by calling the police non-emergency line which was busy.  Then I moved on to 911 which transferred me to the fire department.  The dispatcher asked me if we were all ok and whether or not we could leave the house.  I told him that we could leave, but that it certainly didn’t seem safe to go outside!  He told us that as long as the tree wasn’t actually in the house or the house was on fire, then we should stay in and they would get to us as soon as they could.  Minutes went by, then an hour, and through the power of our neighborhood facebook page, I realized that the fire department would probably not be coming as people began posting pictures of trees that had actually come through their roof!  The police department sent out emails and text messages asking residents to stay home and off the streets.  Most of the streets in Pasadena were now blocked by downed trees and power lines, while transformers were sparking all around us.  We could hear sirens and realized as bad as a tree on our house was, others had it worse and we didn’t have a choice but to wait and hope that our roof would hold.  Much of Pasadena and all of the neighboring cities of Altadena and Sierra Madre were without power.  We called our insurance company and started a claim; they had already declared Los Angeles Country a “catastrophe” area after receiving more than 1000 claim calls in an hour.  Given that we still, for the moment, had a roof we were told that it would be days before our damage could be assessed, to take care of what needed to be fixed, and save our receipts.  There wasn’t anything more we could do at 1:00 am, but there was no way I was going to sleep with a tree poised over my head so Jeff moved our mattress into our windowless dining room and we hunkered down with Baby Girl.  I think I literally hovered over her tiny body all night trying to shield her from anything that might invade our house.  In the wee hours of the morning the wind died down and we finally slept marveling as we awoke at how quiet the world could be without the fury of the wind.  Seeing the devastation in the morning light was surreal; our lawn was green, not with grass, but with redwood needles.  In a stroke of amazing luck I called a tree service company  just as they opened and they said they would come by with a crane.  They warned that they wouldn’t have time to do much else, but would remove the tree from our house.  The schools were all closed and normally we would have stayed home given such a disaster, but in case of very bad timing we had a long arranged court date at 8:30 am sharp to finalize Theodore’s name change.  It was comical, getting three kids up and dressed properly for court, traipsing out to our car via our side door (the front door was blocked with debris), me in high heels stepping around huge branches.  The drive to the courthouse, only two miles away, was slow going.  The major streets in many spots had only one lane open with cars in each direction taking turns around huge downed trees.  Streetlights and traffic signals lay broken.  There were pieces of roof everywhere.  In the end, we made it to court and Henry William officially became Theodore Gregory.   When we arrived home, the redwood on our roof was gone and our front walk was even cleared and swept clean.

Besides the wind apocalypse it hasn’t been an easy week.  While not truly colicky, Baby Girl is going through some significant newborn fussiness.  Theodore is sick with some evil daycare germ and actually threw up on his baby sister (and me) today.  And Thomas is just plain moody and difficult.  But one of the most wonderful things about being a 33 year old mother of three children, rather than a 28 year old first time parent, is that nothing much phases us anymore.  As long as our family is safe and healthy, everything really is ok.  I was a little shaky the night after the wind storm, vividly envisioning what could have happened if that tree had crashed through our bedroom with us in it.  But the fact is, that it didn’t.  Our 72 year old house is, apparently, made of pretty strong stuff; as is my love for our perfect Baby Girl.

*The title to this post is in reference to the “Holy shit bees!” in last week’s post.  And yes, the tree service company,  told us that the Holy shit bees were, amazingly, still in the tree (surviving 100 mile per hour winds and a fall!) section that fell on our roof.

One Week

November 28th, 2011

I thought that the postpartum period with the third baby would be even easier than that with the other two kids – I had a pretty easy recovery and start to nursing with Thomas and recovery and nursing with Theo was a breeze.  I thought that baby number three might be even easier.

Not so much.

At eight days old today I think that we have turned the corner and a are now on a positive slope, rather than a negative one but oh it has been a long week.  Some highlights:

  • Eating homemade cinnamon rolls and scrambled eggs with cheese a couple of hours after Baby Girl’s birth.  I had the thought several weeks ago that cinnamon rolls would be the perfect after labor food and so I made up two batches and froze them.  When I went into what I was fairly sure was active labor I took out one batch to defrost and about an hour after Baby was born we popped them into the oven.  Jeff then made us all scrambled eggs with cheese to go with them and I think that was one of the most satisfying meals of my life.
  • Thomas’ reaction upon meeting his baby sister, “Where is her neck?”
  • Theo’s favorite thing to say (loudly) and with a grin all week, “Mama say ‘Nooooo!’  Mama say ‘Owwwww!’” – I woke them up at about 4:00 am yelling through labor which they were, apparently, quite amused by.
  • Baby Girl did not scream, and in fact fell asleep, on the one short car ride she has been on.  Although I have no desire to get in the car sometimes you just have to and I dearly hope that this means she does not take after her brothers who despised the car for months.
  • It hit me on Friday morning at about 5:30 am that all the pain I was in from nursing was definitely not right – the absolute low point of this week.  After over five years of easily and successfully nursing babies/toddlers, I had to call in a lactation consultant and I am so glad I did.  Nursing has definitely improved and I am now confident we will make it through to a long nursing relationship.
  • Yesterday was Thomas’ 5th birthday party.  We had originally scheduled the party for November 6th, thinking that would give us plenty of time before Baby Sister’s estimated arrival, but latent contractions set in for me on October 29th and I simply wasn’t feeling up to much of anything after that.  We then rescheduled his party for yesterday, November 27th, what I hoped would be long enough after Baby Sister’s birth.  It turned out beautifully and between buying half the food and having others make and bring the rest; it turned out to be the most relaxing party I’ve ever thrown – even with a one week old.
  • About 20 minutes before the party was scheduled to start I looked out our front window and saw our yard blanketed with, no exaggeration, probably 10,000 bees in a diffuse cloud.  I called Jeff over who exclaimed “Holy shit!” I got out our beekeeping book (we don’t have bees yet, but are planning on them) which told us that the bees were likely swarming, did not have a home and thus were not particularly territorial/aggressive, and that within minutes would form a ball of bees somewhere and hang out.  It was surreal to watch; over the course of five minutes the bees all coalesced into a compact ball hanging about 25 feet up in our redwood tree.  It was one of the most amazing natural sights I have ever seen.  And it was quite amusing to hear Thomas exclaim, with perfect inflection, for the next few minutes, “Bees!  Holy shit bees!”
  • We ended the week last night with Baby Girl’s first real extended period of fussiness.  She was generally awake and unhappy; alternating between nursing, lying on my chest with me patting her butt, and being held by Jeff while he bounced and swayed with her.  After battling the newborn demons for about an hour and a half she fell into an exhausted sleep on Jeff’s (also sleeping) chest.  And what did I do?  I put my head up next to her and just stared until I couldn’t keep my eyes open anymore.  I love sleep, but I love her even more.

My Girl

November 22nd, 2011

 We are thrilled to announce the birth of our daughter:

Baby Girl Mendolo
November 20, 2011
5:44 am
7 pounds, 8 ounces
20 3/4 inches long

Baby girl was born at home after an intense but amazing labor.  Baby girl has a full head of dark hair and is eating and sleeping well.  Gina and Jeff and very tired, but content and happy.  Thomas and Theodore are very interested in their baby sister and showering her with hugs, kisses, songs, stories, and general exuberance.  We are working on just the right name for Baby Girl and will let everyone know what it is as soon as we do.